There is always going to be that tension between the anarchy of desire and the tyranny of judgement. The heart and the head. If what we are handed is sufficiently fulfilling, it makes sense to grow within it and nurture it, as it nurtures us. That is the basis of culture and society.
On the other hand, if what we are given causes us cognitive dissonance, either because the many options require weighing many factors, that the route we are being guided towards doesn't fit our ambitions, or it involves ignoring our moral basis, there will be the tendency to seek to transcend these boundaries.
If one is feeling lost, it might be an option to wait for someone to come along to give us answers, or it might be an opportunity to reflect on the world in which we find ourselves and what we assume it should be telling us.
For instance, the most powerful idea in Western culture is monotheism. Logically though, a spiritual absolute would be the essence of sentience, from which we rise, not an ideal of wisdom and judgement, from which we fell. The fact we are aware, than the details of which we are aware.
The top down father figure lawgiver was always about getting people to shut up and listen to the boss.
The resulting problem of conflating the ideal, which is aspirational, with the absolute, which is elemental, is this has cast a long shadow over all the movements and ideologies seeking to replace the culture of monotheism and its political expression of monarchy. From the Terrors of the French Revolution, up through the current cancel culture, there is this assumption one's ideals should be universal and timeless, not unique expressions of our evolutionary path.
When we transcend the old, either we start building some new, slightly more engaged culture and civics, or we descend into anarchy, where only fear rules and faceless bureaucracy gives it form.
Life exists in the space between the absolute and the infinite. We are like sentences in a larger story. The best we can do is take what we are given and find ways to connect it in some larger context.
We have brains to solve problems, not just instinctively go with the flow.
